For the Mamas Making Their Way Back to Themselves - Meet Fal's Own Club

Gloria Tergat
3 days ago
8 min read

It is an undeniable fact that motherhood changes you. Not just your schedule, not just your pace, but the way you see yourself, other women, and the world around you. But finding people that understand what looks like day-to-day can be a challenge and sometimes isolating. That is why we were drawn to Destinie, filmmaker, curator, creative designer and overall supermom. She is building community from her lived experience and turning something personal into something connective, something grounding. We sat down with Destinie, the founder of fal’s own club, a growing collective for mums who want to rediscover themselves while raising little ones.

In this conversation, she shares the moments that shaped her work, the vision she’s carrying, and what it truly means to build a village with intention and care at the core of it.

Can you share the moment or experience that sparked your journey into this work?

Becoming a mother made me truly see other mothers. Not just in the highlight moments, but in the mundane, quiet, heavy ones. The late-night Googling, the mental load, the questions you whisper to yourself when no one else is around.

During my first year of motherhood, I stayed indoors because it felt safe. But safety slowly

started to feel like shrinking. I needed something that allowed me to move, breathe, and

rediscover myself. I began walking daily, which I also documented on TikTok, first to lose the

postpartum weight, but those walks ended up saving me mentally, emotionally, and

creatively. I kept trying to go back to the Destinie I was before motherhood.

But eventually I realised, I’m not meant to go backwards. Where I am now is exactly where I’m supposed to be. Motherhood didn’t erase me, it gave me a new layer, a deeper version of myself. Everything I created before is now magnified, because I’m creating it from a new purpose. As I documented my walks on TikTok, a mum asked me if I’d ever start a walking club.

I wasn’t ready then. But when 2025 arrived, something shifted - I didn’t want to just

rediscover myself in motherhood... I wanted other mothers to rediscover themselves too.

Fal’s Own Club was born from that moment, a space for mothers to move, connect, build

their village and remember who they are outside of motherhood. I want my daughter to grow up watching that. I want her to see a mother who didn’t disappear in motherhood, but expanded.

How would you describe the kind of care or change your work brings?

We create connections in a stage of life that often feels isolating. My work has always centred around celebrating women — their expression, their identity, their stories.

Fal’s Own Club is that same celebration, just in motherhood. I wanted to build a space that

honours the parts of motherhood that aren’t always spoken about, even though so many

mothers feel them. Fal’s Own became that space for me first, and now for other mothers.

Mothers show up exactly as they are, not just as someone’s mum, but as a woman

rediscovering herself while raising a little person. We take the everyday moments — the mess, the questions, the identity shifts, and turn them into connection instead of isolation.

With Fal’s Own Club, I’m creating visibility. We allow mothers to be seen, not only as caregivers, but as whole women with dreams, identities, and stories. Women are excited to relearn and rediscover themselves. And beyond that — mothers are making friends. They’re building their village.

They’re connecting over nuanced experiences that only another mother can understand.

What’s one thing people don’t always see about what you do?

What people don’t often see is the creative world I come from. Before motherhood, my entire career was rooted in filmmaking, photography, curation and creative design — all centred around storytelling and celebrating women. My work explored the unseen beauty in everyday experiences, especially for women and people of colour, using colour, composition and intentional detail.

I still bring that same level of detail and intentionality into Fal’s Own Club. Nothing is random, not the branding, not the colours, not even the route we walk on. Every touchpoint is designed to make mothers feel seen and cared for. People see the walks, they see the content, but they don’t always see the creative labour, the planning, the emotional energy or the intention behind it.

Sometimes I even question myself: Are mothers feeling what I’m trying to create? Am I

reaching the women who need this? Those thoughts are real, and they push me to keep

refining and showing up. Fal’s Own Club isn’t just a mums’ group — it’s a curated community, built with the same artistic care and storytelling that shaped my creative career. And as I continue building this, my hope is that people not only join the walks and curated events, but begin to see the vision:

Fal’s Own Club becoming a staple for mums — a source of support, connection and

belonging, and a tool mothers can use to build their village and rediscover themselves.

Who or what keeps you and your team inspired when the work feels heavy or resources are low?

I come from a predominantly female household, my mum, my sisters (and my dad of

course!) I grew up surrounded by women who were expressive, resilient and resourceful.

That environment shaped me. It taught me that women build worlds, and that community is

something we carry, not just create.

My sisters, my mum, and my friends keep me grounded. They remind me of who I am when I

start to doubt myself. They keep my inspiration up and my self-doubt low.

And honestly — the mothers who show up keep me going.

Some women have been there since the very first walk. Others are brand new. But they

return. They keep coming back, and that tells me that what I’m building is working, even on

days when I feel unsure. Seeing mothers connect, make friends, and build their village — that is the inspiration. When the work feels heavy or resources feel low, I return to why I started.

It reminds me that progress doesn’t have to be fast, it just has to be consistent, intentional,

and forward.

Who has poured into you or shaped how you show up for your community?

Motherhood itself has shaped me. When I was pregnant, I worried about how I would show up as a mum. I wasn’t always confident speaking up in certain spaces — especially professional ones, and being quiet

meant people didn’t always see my full ability or potential.

But becoming a mother forced me to find my voice. I had a little girl depending on me. I had to advocate for her, stand up for her, and make sure she was seen and heard. In doing that for her, I learned how to do it for myself. Creating a community means speaking to women from all different backgrounds, stories,

and walks of life. It isn’t always easy, but it’s powerful. We’ve built trust. We learn from one

another. It reminds me that community isn’t something I give to people — it’s something we

build together.

How do you sustain yourself while giving so much to others?

Creating Fal’s Own Club was always meant to be bigger than me.

The community keeps me accountable — when I show up for other mothers, I’m also

showing up for myself.

Sharing my story, the balance between my creative career and building a motherhood

community sustains me. It gives purpose to the challenges I’ve gone through. And even though my daughter is a toddler, she’s so smart, curious, and excited about the world. Seeing life through her eyes

reminds me to slow down, to be present, to notice the small things.

Motherhood hasn’t made me smaller, it has expanded me.

This journey has allowed me to rediscover not only who I was before becoming a mother,

but who I am becoming now. A mother who creates, who builds community and who shows up.

I tell mothers to make space for themselves, so I have to practice that too.

I want my daughter to grow up seeing a mother who didn’t shrink her life to fit motherhood,

but expanded motherhood to fit her life.

If you could dream big, what would the impact of your work look like in your community five years from now?

In five years, I see Fal’s Own Club becoming more than a walking community — I see

infrastructure.

A home for parents — not just mothers, because dads need support too.

A space that feels like a creative hub: where parents can work, meet, create, attend

workshops, learn, and teach. A place designed for support, connectivity, and growth.

I want to tap back into my curatorial background and build an exhibition centred on

motherhood and identity. Fal’s Own Club becomes a space that hosts conversations that

usually stay private — but deserve a stage. A space that educates, inspires, and allows others

to engage with the real, layered world of parenthood.

I also see a supportive arm to the community — something that gives parents access to

resources that make a real difference: childcare support, therapy, emotional wellbeing,

career or creative opportunities. I want to build a system that fills the gaps parents fall

through.

Fal’s Own Club will be both a source and a tool. A place that supports mothers emotionally and practically. Beyond the physical space, I see storytelling, talks, interviews, articles, collaborations, with

parents’ voices at the centre. I see myself speaking in rooms I used to only dream about,

sharing the journey and representing mothers with depth and power.

In my biggest dream, Fal’s Own Club becomes a movement — not just somewhere parents

go, but somewhere they grow.

If you could ask your community one question, what would it be?

“If you could strip away responsibilities, expectations, and the title of ‘mum’ for a moment

— what do you need to feel like yourself again? What does a day that honours that version

of you look like, from start to finish?”

How do you centre care within your work?

At Fal’s Own Club, care is centred in the small details.

At the start of each walk, I lead simple prompts or reflective activities. It gives mothers a

moment to speak about themselves, not just in their role as a mum, but as women with

thoughts, opinions, and identities outside of caregiving. Creating that emotional safety

opens the door for honesty and connection, and also helps them open up to finding friends

during our events.

Even tiny gestures matter.

I always make sure we grab something to sip, because that simple act of holding a drink can

make people feel grounded and seen. It softens the atmosphere and naturally brings

conversation to life.

I focus on ease. Care, to me, isn’t about grand gestures — it’s about designing experiences where women

feel comfortable enough to just be. I’m always thinking about how to help mothers connect,

not just to each other, but back to themselves.

Do you have any upcoming event(s) you'd like us to mention?

Our next event is on the 16th December

"Stems & Stories" A Floral Arrangement Workshop for mums only.

An intimate floral evening for mamas — crafting winter arrangements, sharing stories, and celebrating creativity and connection. In Collaboration with KahindiFlowers.

Join us for Stems & Stories at upCYCLE LDN Hub in Brixton, a 2-hour winter floral workshop designed just for mums who want a beautiful, grounding night to themselves. This is your invitation to slow down, create with your hands, and enjoy the company of other mothers in a warm, inspiring setting.